Meryl! I feel completely remiss that I haven't commented until now, especially since I read this piece to my wife last week, and have been thinking about it ever since you posted it. Such life-changing stuff.
We've had a long-standing framework my wife got from one of her teacher friends, called MGI (most generous interpretation). We've practiced this over the dinner table, thinking, what's the most generous interpretation of this seemingly spiteful or annoying or whatever behavior. And it's good... far better than just saying, this person's a jerk... but your piece has shown me what it's missing.
It's still coming from my judgment of what's good/bad, imposing some generous interpretation that still something I would consider a reasonable explanation. Maybe I can't even fathom their explanation or experience. That's where this is so beautiful, and I just had to let you know, it's one of those things that I'm so grateful to know about, and will be bringing into my life and my family's life. Thank you!
Wow what an incredible comment to receive and read. I’m beaming. Love that you and your wife coined your own phrase that was supportive. It definitely goes towards UPR but yes UPR has this next level and magical radical acceptance element to it. No ‘assuming the best’ needed. No assumptions needed at all. I’m so glad this has been helpful for you. Let me know how applying it goes for you both!
This has been an enlighening read! I didn’t know about UPR before, but I’ll keep it in mind from now on. You also shattered some beliefs I had about how to treat others and I’m grateful for it.
Love this quote: “Do not try to call them back to where they were, and do not try to call them to where you are, beautiful as that place may seem. You must have the courage to go with them to a place neither you nor they have been before.” Richard Rohr Meryl. It’s really beautiful. Thank you for sharing it as a part of this writing. I find it remarkable how bringing this skill consciously out of the coaching space and into other spaces reframes my interactions with others and my experience of the world. There’s a kind of “holding things lightly” effect and I can move much more freely. I also love how it facilitates a client to settle in themselves and their power, in the coaching space. With UPR at the fore, clients often experience a reduction in the need to “do for” the coach and they can just “be for” themselves. It’s truly beautiful - a gorgeous topic to write about! 💫
Wonderful way of putting it - they don’t need to ‘do for’ the coach and just ‘be for’ themselves. UPR is a real game changer isn’t it!
Meryl! I feel completely remiss that I haven't commented until now, especially since I read this piece to my wife last week, and have been thinking about it ever since you posted it. Such life-changing stuff.
We've had a long-standing framework my wife got from one of her teacher friends, called MGI (most generous interpretation). We've practiced this over the dinner table, thinking, what's the most generous interpretation of this seemingly spiteful or annoying or whatever behavior. And it's good... far better than just saying, this person's a jerk... but your piece has shown me what it's missing.
It's still coming from my judgment of what's good/bad, imposing some generous interpretation that still something I would consider a reasonable explanation. Maybe I can't even fathom their explanation or experience. That's where this is so beautiful, and I just had to let you know, it's one of those things that I'm so grateful to know about, and will be bringing into my life and my family's life. Thank you!
Wow what an incredible comment to receive and read. I’m beaming. Love that you and your wife coined your own phrase that was supportive. It definitely goes towards UPR but yes UPR has this next level and magical radical acceptance element to it. No ‘assuming the best’ needed. No assumptions needed at all. I’m so glad this has been helpful for you. Let me know how applying it goes for you both!
So great to see this come to life, and so glad you wrote it!
So great to see this come to life, and so glad you wrote it!
Woohoo! So great to see this come to life. The lessons have stuck with me since you initially introduced it!
This has been an enlighening read! I didn’t know about UPR before, but I’ll keep it in mind from now on. You also shattered some beliefs I had about how to treat others and I’m grateful for it.
So pleased this resonated and helped! Would love to know which beliefs were shattered?
"Treat others as you'd like to be treated" and "Kill them with kindness". So much food for thought here!
Love this quote: “Do not try to call them back to where they were, and do not try to call them to where you are, beautiful as that place may seem. You must have the courage to go with them to a place neither you nor they have been before.” Richard Rohr Meryl. It’s really beautiful. Thank you for sharing it as a part of this writing. I find it remarkable how bringing this skill consciously out of the coaching space and into other spaces reframes my interactions with others and my experience of the world. There’s a kind of “holding things lightly” effect and I can move much more freely. I also love how it facilitates a client to settle in themselves and their power, in the coaching space. With UPR at the fore, clients often experience a reduction in the need to “do for” the coach and they can just “be for” themselves. It’s truly beautiful - a gorgeous topic to write about! 💫